Your child actually learns his language from you. So it is your responsibility to teach him correct and polite verbal communication. Speak in the same way, and he will learn to speak in the same way. If you talk in a loud and intimidating tone, so he will. Yelling and using foul words is never advisable since it will frighten your child and reduce his self-esteem.
Remember that your child’s personality is influenced by the environment he’s growing up in. It is widely acknowledge that happy and mild-mannered parent raise happy and well-adjusted children.
In establishing good communication at your home, respect is essential. Next to love, this is the most important thing that you can instill in your child’s impressionable mind. Some people think that it’s only children who owe their parents respect. They think it’s alright for parents to badmouth their kids when the latter have done something wrong.
However, in a positive family environment, parents also treat their children with respect. Respect is about tolerating one’s imperfections and at the same time guiding one toward self-improvement. Isn’t guidance one of the duties of a parent?
Certainly there will be times when your child will do something wrong, something that wrong, some thing that totally upsets you. If you always point out your children’s shortcoming without acknowledging their positive qualities, they will grow up feeling worthless. Parent should be humble enough to admit that they also make mistakes- and that, when they were young, they had their own share of embarrassing experiences. Perhaps your child also feels embarrassed when he does something wrong, You can point out and correct his mistake in a gentle yet authoritative manner.
Be considerate of your child’s needs. Even id he’s just a toddler, he already deserves to be treated as an individual. Do not think that your toddler is just a pretty little thing that you can show off to other people. Children, just like adults, have demands that should net be ignored. During a trip to the mall, for instance, expect that your toddler would go thirsty, need to go to the toilet, or get upset for some odd reason. Be patient when these things happen. Do not be annoyed that you’re shopping or your meal is disrupted. Most of all, do not berate your child in public.
If your child is throwing a tantrum and you’re beginning to get angry take him to a quite corner and talk to him calmly.
Recognizing your child’s need-and understanding his personality quirks-is a sign of love and respect for him. It’s also a way to gain his love and respect.